What’s your experience like when you’re sitting across from someone that believes their truth is the entire truth? No matter the articulate points you may have, nothing else is possible other than the story they have cemented in their mind.

I’m going to take a wild guess and say it’s frustrating. It often feels like a complete waste trying to have an open conversation with a fixed mind. There’s no bend, no openness to understanding one another, no opportunity for progress. Just their truth that they refuse to unhook from.

If we can agree it’s frustrating having a conversation with a fixed mind, I want you to take a second and ask yourself a question. Why do we choose to let our mind become that fixed mindset when it comes to some of the conversations we have between the ears?

• What’s the point of negotiating with your mind if you already believe you can’t become the healthy version of yourself you want?
• What’s the point of negotiating with the part of the mind that has already made up the decision you don’t deserve that promotion?
• What’s the point of negotiating with the belief you aren’t good enough for a particular relationship?

When you take time to think, many of us have experienced our mind and self-talk turn into that conversation we become so frustrated with. Parts of our mind anchoring to the limitations and unwilling to believe there’s another truth out there to discover.

Limiting beliefs we become fixated on are hard to avoid, but who wants to be that frustrating person unwilling to unhook the anchor from their current truth? We know the feeling when we are sitting across from that fix minded person, so why would we let ourselves get to that point?

It’s easy for limitations to sneak into the mind. It’s natural to face doubt. But where we lose our way is when we become that person where the limitations are here to stay.

We are too capable of great things to let this doubt become anchored in. Refuse to let doubt plant roots in your mind. Instead, choose the mindset that is open to debate, open to other possibilities of truth. This learner mindset is much more interesting to have a conversation with. It’s a journey towards a new truth as opposed to being hooked into the ground unable to move away from the current truth.

Take your step: reflect on the part(s) of your world you’ve allowed that frustrating fixed mindset to creep in and deny you the discussion you need for a new truth. A new truth with limitations you’ve been fixed on stripped away. Have that open conversation with yourself to challenge the current truth in a path to discovering your new truth.